5 SURE TIPS TO HELP YOU GET OVER AN HEARTBREAK

 

One of the hardest positions to ever find yourself in is the break up phase. Break up can be a painful occurrence that is sometimes inevitable in certain relationships. At times, humans find themselves ending the relationship they thought would last forever, saying goodbye to people they never thought they would have to, and thus get destabilized thinking about being unfortunate or not worthy of something good, which is thesaurus. Break up can happen due to many reasons which mostly in reality cannot be helped by both parties in the relationship. It could occur in a friendly or violent manner, but not to worry, we have some sure tips for you to move over that ex that seems painfully stuck in your mind.

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1.       The first step is cutting all forms of communications with them. This includes you to disengage and block them on all social media platforms, so that you do not find yourself monitoring their pages and vice versa, which is so unhealthy for your mental health. This tip is one of the hardest procedures to follow especially if the memory is still vivid, but it is highly effective. Space is essential in this situation, and telling them not to contact you is recommendable if they would not stop reaching out in spite. This is not you waging war against them, but you trying to train yourself mentally to get used to not having them as your partner anymore. Make sure that you are significantly over them before you consider them as friends afterwards.

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Try something new / Explore. Being in a relationship can be unwittingly time consuming as you are mostly glued to your partner. This can cause a void in your heart after the break up that can result to you being tempted to return to your ex if not properly handled. A pill to this effect is for you to focus on yourself. The relationship you have with yourself should be the best one, because if it is not right, your relationship with others might be absurd as well. Work on your confidence and level up. Do your best not to be alone at this time. The more you sit at home alone, the more you are sinking into the pain of your past, find every chance to socialize. Reconnect with old friend and make moves to make new friends if you have none, get immersed with activities you have always wanted to try if you can afford to, work on your self-esteem and independence, acquire a new purpose, try out new hobbies such as painting, watching animations and other projects that can distract you from this emotional imbalance.

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Focus on your ex’s bad habits. Another tip to sustain a heartbreak is to dwell on your ex s bad habits. This is called NEGATIVE REAPPRAISAL. Totally expel their good qualities from your mind at this point. This does not make you a bad person as you can consider their good traits later in life when you are clearheaded. You can as well create them. You can literally grab a list and write the negative traits your ex possesses at least once a day. This in reality can make you visualize your future without them.

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Do not resort to drinking. This is the worst way to handle a break up. Drinking is not going to eradicate this picture. Its effect is just temporary and detrimental to the health. So when thinking of how to overcome this, it is medically and psychologically advised to not consider this option.

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Get professional support. If you still seem to not be over them even after months of making efforts to, it may be time to see a therapist.  Having an expert in this field converse with you can be life changing as well. Be totally transparent with them on all parts of the incidence so that he/she can touch the aspects needed to, thus recommending you viable options to salvage the situation.     

I hope these among many other tips will be of help to you. I wish you a safe sailing in this journey.

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Written by ADEGBORO DAMILOLA.